Mom doesn't have (memo adult children)
Separation is not a one-sided process, but often we (and I too) talk a lot about parents who are not ready, can not, keep, do not let go. About mothers…

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Husband and father. Find the differences
The husband is often found in the projection of the father, these two figures, in the perception of women, interwoven into one. If father was brutal – husband is perceived…

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It's simple. About family rituals and traditions
Working with family (and its subsystems separately: husband + wife, parent + child, and other diverse set of "deuce"/"Troika") I often touch themes family rituals and traditions. "What traditions do…

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convenience

Marriage of convenience: the truth about a relationship without feelings

Is there any sense in a marriage of convenience in contemporary reality? On this topic argues Gestalt therapist Andrew Yudin.

There is such an interesting phenomenon in psychology: human stereotypes sometimes survive for centuries those epochs in which they were born and for which they were relevant. A typical example of such a tenacious meme is the common myth that marriages “by calculation” are stronger, and people are happier in them than in marriages “by love”.

In the history of mankind, including our country, there were really quite long periods when the sale of oneself into marriage slavery was the only available social Elevator for young people and their families, and for someone it was simply a forced way of survival. In such a social situation, the exchange of a hungry misfortune for a well-fed, warm misfortune, and even fixed by a religious and Patriarchal culture, seemed to many the best and very adequate choice, giving no reason to regret in old age. But when people ignore the modern context and try to act according to medieval rules, real life dramas are played out. Continue reading

Violations of hierarchy in the family system. What parents should not do with their children
Hierarchy Hierarchy is one of the parameters of the family system, designed to establish order, to determine the affiliation, authority, power in the family and the degree of influence of…

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Irina Mlodik: "old Age – it's time to get paid"
Is it possible to prepare for your own old age and how to behave with elderly relatives? This is the story of a psychologist, author of books and articles on…

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Avoid toxic people, including toxic relatives
The decision not to contact a family member is deeply personal. For some of us, healing a mother's wound is only possible through contact with the mother. In this scenario,…

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How to separate from my parents or why I don't live the way I want
Emotional separation from parents sometimes requires serious work on themselves in adulthood. About why it is important to separate from parents, what to do with guilt and how to find…

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