Psychologist in the divorce. About what?
My colleague and I once talked about values. And I enthusiastically said this phrase: "Here, for example, family is a great value for me. That's why I got divorced." He…

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It's simple. About family rituals and traditions
Working with family (and its subsystems separately: husband + wife, parent + child, and other diverse set of "deuce"/"Troika") I often touch themes family rituals and traditions. "What traditions do…

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"My husband doesn't want me"
A topic that is not customary to talk about. A topic that causes women a lot of shame and guilt. The theme, which, though not so noticeable as to bodily…

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convenience

Marriage of convenience: the truth about a relationship without feelings

Is there any sense in a marriage of convenience in contemporary reality? On this topic argues Gestalt therapist Andrew Yudin.

There is such an interesting phenomenon in psychology: human stereotypes sometimes survive for centuries those epochs in which they were born and for which they were relevant. A typical example of such a tenacious meme is the common myth that marriages “by calculation” are stronger, and people are happier in them than in marriages “by love”.

In the history of mankind, including our country, there were really quite long periods when the sale of oneself into marriage slavery was the only available social Elevator for young people and their families, and for someone it was simply a forced way of survival. In such a social situation, the exchange of a hungry misfortune for a well-fed, warm misfortune, and even fixed by a religious and Patriarchal culture, seemed to many the best and very adequate choice, giving no reason to regret in old age. But when people ignore the modern context and try to act according to medieval rules, real life dramas are played out. Continue reading

Parents
In order to endure childish affection, which may seem clingy and annoying, as well as children's affects like outbursts of hatred for younger brothers and sisters, and children's whims, and…

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Children and cuisine: risks of the "new Patriarchate"
The women of Victorian England were almost invisible to the law. The term "male person" (male person), which denoted a full-fledged person, brought gentle ladies in corsets beyond the legal…

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Beliefs that shape co-dependence
I remembered a distant childhood. Anything I say ideas, opinions, views, objections close ended met with "what you know...", "you're a baby, you warthog". I felt devalued and humiliated, ashamed…

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Such a common story...
Part 1. Lyrical She calls her mother every day – morning and evening. She is the woman of a little over thirty, successfully (happily?) married, with two educations, now on…

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