Beliefs that shape co-dependence
I remembered a distant childhood. Anything I say ideas, opinions, views, objections close ended met with "what you know...", "you're a baby, you warthog". I felt devalued and humiliated, ashamed…

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Typology of family crises
The prenuptial period of the relationship is extremely important for their subsequent stability. The most important condition is the presence of a period of love, with all his characteristic uncritical…

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How to separate from my parents or why I don't live the way I want
Emotional separation from parents sometimes requires serious work on themselves in adulthood. About why it is important to separate from parents, what to do with guilt and how to find…

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disadvantages

I do not like who I live with, how I live, and the future that awaits me

Writes me Tatiana:

Olga, good afternoon.

Please analyze your situation and state of mind.

I am 32 years old, married 10 years, child 4 years. There are all the attributes of a prosperous and happy life, and I’m not happy.

Married went without love, was much sympathy and I hoped, that love will come over time. What prompted me to make such a step unrequited love for another. The process of “lapping characters” was not easy. But as a result, we have developed a trusting relationship. Although the passion they had. A child was born, and as often happens, I looked at my husband with a new look. Before me stood a real man with all the advantages and disadvantages. I was aware before that that we are different: different upbringing, views, sense of humor. Often I was hurt or ashamed by his words and actions. But I tried to drown out those feelings and ignore them. Now, all these points have escalated. Continue reading

Children and cuisine: risks of the "new Patriarchate"
The women of Victorian England were almost invisible to the law. The term "male person" (male person), which denoted a full-fledged person, brought gentle ladies in corsets beyond the legal…

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Psychological problems of marriage
As you know, "all happy families are similar to each other, each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." So how do happy families resemble each other? And so…

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How to separate from my parents or why I don't live the way I want
Emotional separation from parents sometimes requires serious work on themselves in adulthood. About why it is important to separate from parents, what to do with guilt and how to find…

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It's simple. About family rituals and traditions
Working with family (and its subsystems separately: husband + wife, parent + child, and other diverse set of "deuce"/"Troika") I often touch themes family rituals and traditions. "What traditions do…

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