Violations of hierarchy in the family system. What parents should not do with their children
Hierarchy Hierarchy is one of the parameters of the family system, designed to establish order, to determine the affiliation, authority, power in the family and the degree of influence of…

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A life that wasn't meant for me
What can you do for me? What does life look like that I can live? What is my measure of well-being and happiness? What is my "share" and what is…

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Cheating and 5 needs in marriage
Adultery is a marker, a symptom of an unhappy marriage. Adultery can talk about the unmet needs of spouses in marriage. Without getting something in the family, the spouse is…

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disadvantages

I do not like who I live with, how I live, and the future that awaits me

Writes me Tatiana:

Olga, good afternoon.

Please analyze your situation and state of mind.

I am 32 years old, married 10 years, child 4 years. There are all the attributes of a prosperous and happy life, and I’m not happy.

Married went without love, was much sympathy and I hoped, that love will come over time. What prompted me to make such a step unrequited love for another. The process of “lapping characters” was not easy. But as a result, we have developed a trusting relationship. Although the passion they had. A child was born, and as often happens, I looked at my husband with a new look. Before me stood a real man with all the advantages and disadvantages. I was aware before that that we are different: different upbringing, views, sense of humor. Often I was hurt or ashamed by his words and actions. But I tried to drown out those feelings and ignore them. Now, all these points have escalated. Continue reading

Five reasons why unloved daughters choose the wrong partners
"How come I married a man who is a copy of my mother? It seemed that he did not look like her, and in the end – just like her.…

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Loyalty to your family. How does it affect our lives?
Loyalty is one of the most powerful forces that affect a person's personality and life. Any relationship is based on mutual loyalty of people to each other. To be accepted,…

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Dreams of a "normal family". Two sides of the same model
Where do they come from these dreams of an ideal family? From childhood? But not the fact that you would like to live the way your parents lived. Probably the…

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Traps that are easy to get into, sincerely wishing happiness to their children
– My mother continues to own my life. I resent that! What am I to do? – How old are You? – 26. – You live with your mother? –…

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