I do not like who I live with, how I live, and the future that awaits me
Writes me Tatiana: Olga, good afternoon. Please analyze your situation and state of mind. I am 32 years old, married 10 years, child 4 years. There are all the attributes…

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Loyalty to your family. How does it affect our lives?
Loyalty is one of the most powerful forces that affect a person's personality and life. Any relationship is based on mutual loyalty of people to each other. To be accepted,…

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Five reasons why unloved daughters choose the wrong partners
"How come I married a man who is a copy of my mother? It seemed that he did not look like her, and in the end – just like her.…

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Diagnosis: depreciation. How to live?

The idea of this article hovered in the air for a long time, supported by doubts and non-existent grievances. Increasingly, I began to pull out of the context of “do not worry” and “Yes, it’s not worth it”, “come on, nothing special”, “everyone happens”. It’s about depreciation.

The most classic examples of this disease can be seen on the Playground:

– Mom, look what my castle turned out!
– Are you sure it’s a castle? More like a dead dinosaur.
(depreciation of actions)

– Dad, I belloooo aaiei I parayil palcic!
– Well, okay, you’re a kid or is that something different?
(devaluation of emotions)

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It will be small or who have a family to support?

Tradition or partnership?
Traditionally in our society it is believed that the main earner of money in the family should be a man. On the Internet you can find articles like “What if the main earner – wife?”that is, it is considered as a problem. And never got something like “What to do if the husband earns more?!”At the same time, the reality is very different from the old ideas about “breadwinners”: women often earn no less, and even more than men.

Another question, which can also often be found on forums and in real conversations – “is it Worth pulling not working/earning a little husband?”That is, if the husband does not earn – why is he needed at all? Worry and husbands, reducing all variety of men’s roles only to one function – to bring money to the house. The rest – the role of the father of their children, the owner of the house, the emotional support of his wife – are considered as secondary.

In the ideal picture of a modern family (which, like everything ideal, practically does not occur), marriage is a joint venture of two adults and equal people, aimed at supporting the development of each of the partners.

In the ideal picture of a traditional family, marriage is the transfer of a woman to a man for the birth and upbringing of children (and housekeeping) in exchange for her provision and protection. Continue reading

Mom doesn't have (memo adult children)
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Parental stress
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