Diagnosis: depreciation. How to live?
The idea of this article hovered in the air for a long time, supported by doubts and non-existent grievances. Increasingly, I began to pull out of the context of "do…

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Loyalty to your family. How does it affect our lives?
Loyalty is one of the most powerful forces that affect a person's personality and life. Any relationship is based on mutual loyalty of people to each other. To be accepted,…

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Invisible girl, or Cigarettes in exchange for mom's love
Deaf, stupid, impotent rage covered Olga with a concrete slab. Can't breathe, can't get enough air. How tired she was of all these papers, people, negotiations, endless parental "need", "we…

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pathological coalitions

Typology of family crises

The prenuptial period of the relationship is extremely important for their subsequent stability. The most important condition is the presence of a period of love, with all his characteristic uncritical idealization of the partner, passion and mutual attraction. Memories of this period become a kind of anchor holding the ship of the couple during the storm. However, those couples who entered into a relationship rapidly (less than three to six months), having slipped through the phase of orientation in each other, are more likely to be then disappointed. The same couples who for various reasons (most often because of the weakness of passion or because of counter-dependent scenarios) were kept from marriage for more than three years, will later also be unstable. The experience of premarital relationships, including sexual ones, also carries a predominantly positive load, as it allows you to better understand and explore the nature of your own sexuality, preferences and limitations, to reveal your sexual opportunities with different partners, which further contributes to the Mature idealization of the partner that underlies long-term love relationships (in contrast to the non-critical, not passed the antitrust test of the idealization of the period of love). Marriage rituals, such as courtship and wedding, the notorious and discounted counter-dependent partners stamp in the passport, carry an additional symbolic load, being additional stabilizing objects. They act as limiters of inevitable centrifugal tendencies. Continue reading

Two in the boat, not counting the crisis
From ancient Greek "crisis" is translated as "decision, turning point, turning point, time of transition". Crises lead us up a spiral, to development and depth in relationships. When a couple…

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Adoption of parents. Stages of living
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Diagnosis: depreciation. How to live?
The idea of this article hovered in the air for a long time, supported by doubts and non-existent grievances. Increasingly, I began to pull out of the context of "do…

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The art of raising a slave
Have you noticed that adults often treat children as an uncomfortable object, which greatly complicates their parental existence? Like an annoying fly that you have to fend off, like a…

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