How to separate from my parents or why I don't live the way I want
Emotional separation from parents sometimes requires serious work on themselves in adulthood. About why it is important to separate from parents, what to do with guilt and how to find…

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Beliefs that shape co-dependence
I remembered a distant childhood. Anything I say ideas, opinions, views, objections close ended met with "what you know...", "you're a baby, you warthog". I felt devalued and humiliated, ashamed…

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Parents
In order to endure childish affection, which may seem clingy and annoying, as well as children's affects like outbursts of hatred for younger brothers and sisters, and children's whims, and…

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Loyalty to your family. How does it affect our lives?

Loyalty is one of the most powerful forces that affect a person’s personality and life. Any relationship is based on mutual loyalty of people to each other. To be accepted, “their”, need to confirm any community – I one of you, I as you, I look like. And what do we get in return and how do we pay for our loyalty?

The power of loyalty in the family
The strongest manifestation of loyalty can be seen in the family. It works like this: the child recognizes his parents. This primarily means that he is attached to them. Children identify themselves by their parent. The child grows up and tries to be like mom and dad. If you artificially remove one figure, it will be difficult for the child to recognize and accept himself.

The stronger the prohibition to show loyalty to parents, the stronger the internal need to do it. From the inability to love and be tied to a child can develop a borderline personality warehouse, there is self-destructive behavior, difficulties in close contact with people, difficulties in perceiving others and themselves holistic.

The balance of loyalty to father and mother
Much depends on the rules of the family, but the child’s love for the father and mother is distributed approximately equally. When mom and dad are together, he’s protected. When parents break up, for a child at any age, it is the collapse of integrity. Continue reading

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