My mother always said...
In a sense, every family is a little Prim England with its own traditions. They can relate to relationships, leisure, life... Tried and tested by generations, such rules simplify life.…

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How to explain to mom that you don't want to get married: instructions
The good news is that we can close this unpleasant topic once and for all. The bad news is that you have to grow up very quickly, and – surprise!…

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Parental stress
Quite often young parents are told: "Come on, here our grandmothers gave birth to ten children, and nothing, and you can not cope with one." But really, cultural norms, attachments,…

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How to separate from my parents or why I don’t live the way I want

Emotional separation from parents sometimes requires serious work on themselves in adulthood.

About why it is important to separate from parents, what to do with guilt and how to find a “Golden mean”, says psychologist and trauma therapist Ksenia Wittenberg.

Relationship with parents is a problem for most

About a third of all client requests are about relationships with parents.

Forces withstand this truth, to agree with his drama and to accept its as part of its history. And stop to demand the lost love and care or compensation for the suffering. This is the process of separation.

Begins, usually with such those:
After my mother’s call, I spend half the day depressed, digesting.
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“Pregnant together”: how to survive nine months and not get divorced

Advice from a family psychologist for those whose marital relationship is being tested by pregnancy.

Relationships in a couple – a complex process and sometimes confusing, and if the couple decided to get offspring, then there is no special attention to communication, understanding the feelings and emotions of each other can not do.

Why family conflicts escalate
Remember the wonderful movie “Junior” with Schwarzenegger in the title role? Reconsider! A healthy, physically strong and emotionally balanced character Arnold cried like a child because of the sentimental little things. The Director and writers managed to fully reflect and convey the emotional state of the pregnant woman in a playful and careful manner, inviting the man to change roles and survive these “terrible” States. It’s funny to see how a strong man needed a woman to take care of him.

Pregnancy strengthens all processes and “pain points” of the personality.

Despite the fact that pregnancy can be a long-awaited, planned or natural continuation of the relationship, it does not take away from her truly phenomenal nature. Continue reading

Typology of family crises

The prenuptial period of the relationship is extremely important for their subsequent stability. The most important condition is the presence of a period of love, with all his characteristic uncritical idealization of the partner, passion and mutual attraction. Memories of this period become a kind of anchor holding the ship of the couple during the storm. However, those couples who entered into a relationship rapidly (less than three to six months), having slipped through the phase of orientation in each other, are more likely to be then disappointed. The same couples who for various reasons (most often because of the weakness of passion or because of counter-dependent scenarios) were kept from marriage for more than three years, will later also be unstable. The experience of premarital relationships, including sexual ones, also carries a predominantly positive load, as it allows you to better understand and explore the nature of your own sexuality, preferences and limitations, to reveal your sexual opportunities with different partners, which further contributes to the Mature idealization of the partner that underlies long-term love relationships (in contrast to the non-critical, not passed the antitrust test of the idealization of the period of love). Marriage rituals, such as courtship and wedding, the notorious and discounted counter-dependent partners stamp in the passport, carry an additional symbolic load, being additional stabilizing objects. They act as limiters of inevitable centrifugal tendencies. Continue reading

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