Invisible girl, or Cigarettes in exchange for mom's love
Deaf, stupid, impotent rage covered Olga with a concrete slab. Can't breathe, can't get enough air. How tired she was of all these papers, people, negotiations, endless parental "need", "we…

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Parents, don't teach us to live!
The question came: "How to make it clear to her husband's parents that the son has grown up, married and he has his own family! it is not necessary for…

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Diagnosis: depreciation. How to live?
The idea of this article hovered in the air for a long time, supported by doubts and non-existent grievances. Increasingly, I began to pull out of the context of "do…

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Russia

Marriage of convenience: the truth about a relationship without feelings

Is there any sense in a marriage of convenience in contemporary reality? On this topic argues Gestalt therapist Andrew Yudin.

There is such an interesting phenomenon in psychology: human stereotypes sometimes survive for centuries those epochs in which they were born and for which they were relevant. A typical example of such a tenacious meme is the common myth that marriages “by calculation” are stronger, and people are happier in them than in marriages “by love”.

In the history of mankind, including our country, there were really quite long periods when the sale of oneself into marriage slavery was the only available social Elevator for young people and their families, and for someone it was simply a forced way of survival. In such a social situation, the exchange of a hungry misfortune for a well-fed, warm misfortune, and even fixed by a religious and Patriarchal culture, seemed to many the best and very adequate choice, giving no reason to regret in old age. But when people ignore the modern context and try to act according to medieval rules, real life dramas are played out. Continue reading

My mother always said...
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Husband and father. Find the differences
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