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How to separate from my parents or why I don't live the way I want
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Parents, don’t teach us to live!

The question came: “How to make it clear to her husband’s parents that the son has grown up, married and he has his own family! it is not necessary for him now to decide to go to the other (not saying someone else, but simply another family) family and it is not necessary to impose the son of their point of view?”.

The question, as you know, from a woman. Women are usually more sensitive in such matters – they understand better that the interventions described above rarely lead to anything good, and therefore try to minimize them somehow.

Well, I’ll try to answer.

Breaks in half
Let’s start with a short theory – parents naturally strive to improve the lives of their children, this is normal and in some sense inevitable. Parents often intervene for the best of intentions. And if parents see that the marriage of their son (daughter) is not very successful (in their opinion), they tend to intervene.

In some cases, such intervention may be reasonable and useful (for example, if there is physical violence), but much more often the intervention of parents spoils everything. Continue reading

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