Monthly Archives: November 2017
The women of Victorian England were almost invisible to the law. The term “male person” (male person), which denoted a full-fledged person, brought gentle ladies in corsets beyond the legal field: they were not allowed to have their income and their property, to inherit or enter into contracts. In other words, within the family, women and children were seen as helpless objects of care to be fed and protected. Yes, it is he – the classic Patriarchate, known to us from books and films. A long history, forgotten for uselessness.
“Now,of course, everything is different,” you say. But I suggest you doubt it.
Let’s take a couple under thirty as a model. Very young will not take, choose those who are stronger and already with some experience of relations behind. Imagine that both are at higher education, work, plans and family values. And Yes, they have a very Mature feeling, they are like-minded and want to live together and have children. Continue reading
Working with family (and its subsystems separately: husband + wife, parent + child, and other diverse set of “deuce”/”Troika”) I often touch themes family rituals and traditions.
“What traditions do you have in your family/couple?”When did they arise?”Who brought them?”Do you like them?””What do you like to do together?””Are there any special rituals in your family?”– these and other issues highlight the important bonding threads that give strength to the family fabric.
It happens that traditions, as well as family rules (unspoken), pass from the parent family unconsciously, are taken as a given, in this case it is useful to look at them more closely. How useful are they? Do we really need them for our couple, children, the family as a whole? Do we want to keep them? It is also important to reconsider the tradition with the development of the family: age-related changes, needs change, changes in family composition. Continue reading