Family vampires: one controls, the other sabotages
I'm sure it's really very hard and unpleasant, when you are used as a trash can for the disposal of negative emotions. And in his own home. But what does…

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Looking for the perfect man
I don't want to write about men. And, first of all, about parents. Oil painting: an ideal, pure soul mother who put life on the child, nurtured, nurtured, raised, gave…

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Typology of family crises
The prenuptial period of the relationship is extremely important for their subsequent stability. The most important condition is the presence of a period of love, with all his characteristic uncritical…

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Husband and father

Children and cuisine: risks of the “new Patriarchate”

The women of Victorian England were almost invisible to the law. The term “male person” (male person), which denoted a full-fledged person, brought gentle ladies in corsets beyond the legal field: they were not allowed to have their income and their property, to inherit or enter into contracts. In other words, within the family, women and children were seen as helpless objects of care to be fed and protected. Yes, it is he – the classic Patriarchate, known to us from books and films. A long history, forgotten for uselessness.

“Now,of course, everything is different,” you say. But I suggest you doubt it.

Let’s take a couple under thirty as a model. Very young will not take, choose those who are stronger and already with some experience of relations behind. Imagine that both are at higher education, work, plans and family values. And Yes, they have a very Mature feeling, they are like-minded and want to live together and have children. Continue reading

Husband and father. Find the differences

The husband is often found in the projection of the father, these two figures, in the perception of women, interwoven into one. If father was brutal – husband is perceived intolerant and evil. If the father did not give something, in the husband, first of all, greed is seen. If the father was estranged, and the husband and wife case no.

In General, the relationship with his father is about prospects, success in life, about relationships with men, about financial prosperity. Question: who is your father, means, ultimately, who are you?

On consultation the woman “for forty”, tells that at the husband pneumonia, the ambulance took away it to hospital, on her face tears flow… I sympathize, but, to my surprise, it turns out that the reason of her crying not fears for health of the husband, she grieves for the father who died a year ago.

Wiping tears and sobbing, the woman tells the circumstances of her birth. That the father wanted a son and was disappointed by the appearance of his daughter. And that after she was born, he left home for two weeks. And mom thought he’d never come back. Continue reading

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